Why Resolutions Don’t Work

by | Jan 29, 2019 | Blog Posts, Goal Setting, Lessons from Books, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Happy New Year!

Did you make a resolution? (Did you deliberately not make a resolution?)

Last year, I wrote a special blog series about The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin.

I’m not lazily recycling an old post. I’m revisiting the Tendencies because understanding yours could mean you finally get what you want this year.

Here are the quick summaries.

(Click on the links to learn more about each Tendency and how they can be successful.)

1. OBLIGERS respond to outer expectations, but struggle with inner expectations.

That means: If an Obliger wants to go to the gym every day, an Obliger might never get out their front door (…unless they’re meeting a personal trainer or workout buddy).

(Obligers are the largest group. They’re also the most likely to make and break New Year’s resolutions.) (Me included.)

2. QUESTIONERS respond to inner expectations, but struggle with outer expectations.

That means: If a Questioner wants to work out, a Questioner will. However, a Questioner might not adhere to a specific kind of training plan (unless they understand the reasoning behind it).

3. UPHOLDERS respond to both inner and outer expectations.

That means: If an Upholder wants to go to the gym every day at 6am, they’ll get up, grab their sneakers, and go. They’re just as likely to work out on their own as when they make plans with someone else.

(Upholders are less likely to make resolutions. January 1st seems like an arbitrary time to set a goal.)

4. REBELS struggle with both inner and outer expectations.

That means: a Rebel won’t exercise (…unless a Rebel wakes up and chooses to).

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What tendency are you? What might you do differently knowing that? Comment below. 

I wish you all the best this year: joy, love, health, fulfillment, and whatever else you want most.



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